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Dating a sex worker
June 01 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting question DarkMaiden88 and I would like to take the honour of being the first to reply. It is one of the oldest profession women (also men in recent times) have taken up to meet the needs of societies. There are many industries that meet 'wants' of those only who can afford it and I guess the world can survive if some of those decide to divest their investments. However, as sex workers meet needs and not having them may have some consequences such as increase in rapes and sexual abuse. In terms of sex workers, there are some who chose this to earn drugs money, some to make living and others to make some quick cash to pay tution fees or as such. Personally, as long as a sex worker is D&D free and has manners, surely I am more than happy to date her as I would respect that person as a human who hasn't chosen a mainstream job and is not harmful to other humans. Also, I believe a sex worker has a brain and heart like everyone else, and I don't belive she would consider me as client whilst dating me. To me, respecting her feeling at that given moment is very important.
RHP User
11 years ago
I don't see any problem ? The only difficulty I see is that as a tradesman, I don't mind coming home and working around the house... Hp xo
RHP User
11 years ago
There are only 2 states in Australia where sex work is Legal ie has an act of Parliament to regulate it, Victoria and Queensland. NSW has , to a point, decriminalized it much like Victoria was prior to 1994.
RHP User
11 years ago
Not for me. Don't think I could do it.- Posted from rhpmobile
wingman2014
11 years ago
I was about 20 at the time , she was 30ish. I was an apprentice tradie ,very naive and inexperienced . She told me she was a bar worker at a city night club and that was why we couldn't meet up most nights only days. Took me a few weeks for the penny to drop. Did I mention I was naive? I was just what she needed at that time of her life and vise versa. I made her feel special .Someone who appreciated her as a woman not a prostitute , and she turned me into a man. We were only together a few months but wow what an education.- Posted from rhpmobile
RHP User
11 years ago
As like porn stars, the sex is a job. The sex they have with their partner has meaning to it. - Posted from rhpmobile
RHP User
11 years ago
and may I commend you Wingman, not many could handle it I kinda relate to a degree, for a living, I take my clothes off- I am a professional performer Men lust after the onstage persona and the character I create and perform, but in RL its amazing how men treat me when they know what I do. They believe that I must be gagging for it, or up for it at any given time or place. Your just their own private dancer, nothing more, they forget that you too are real and crave what we all do eventually. Love
RHP User
11 years ago
I have dated a sex worker. She did stop during that time so hard to say how I would have reacted. In all honestly, its just a job and you need to see beyond that. They are also people with feelings/emotions and lives to live.- Posted from rhpmobile
RHP User
11 years ago
I'd do it, have done it, been on both sides of the fence. Its challenging. Though ultimately I'd prefer it. It certainly would make my life easier, both personally and professionally. I like to perform, am a frustrated performer, but that's all it is. A performance art. I only took up the gig because from the age of about 12 on, I knew I wasn't relationship material, and I've always been charming, erudite, witty and good in bed. Its more therapy than anything. Though it takes a strong woman to handle a male sex worker, I assure you of that. I'm pretty sure its the only thing I'm good for, though I wouldn't reccomend it to everyone.
cbdlivin
11 years ago
I have had ongoing relationships twice over the years, and I never had an issue with it, they enjoyed their work and it was not what they did for a living, which had attracted me to them. During my time with them we did a lot of ordinary things, just like any other couple, though I will say got to hear some interesting stories.
RHP User
11 years ago
Yes, yes and yes...... IF the person was truly interesting and mentally stimulating
RHP User
11 years ago
I'd probably date her as long as she stopped doing it while we're dating, but it'd be better if I didn't know about it. Not all girls are financially well off and have to resort to this profession to support themselves, life isn't easy. But if she's willing to change for us then I'd love her for who she's gonna be not she was.
RHP User
11 years ago
I think I'd definitely date an honest working girl over a girl who just fucks lots of random guys for the fun of it. I think prostitutes that work at well respected brothels get regular health check ups too.
Nomadix
11 years ago
Great question DarkMaiden,I did go out with a woman in the sex trade a few year ago and we are still very good friends, now living in different states which was the reason it ended. It was a monogamous relationship if that makes any sense which given pure definition I am sure some will question the use of the term.What she did for a living whilst unsettling initially for me was left at the "office" and did not have any emotional attachment, which to be honest is more than I can say for myself and work which I still struggle to unplug from. As Sirlurk has mentioned the time we spent together was based on relationship not sex, in fact we lived a normal life and as Easyvirtue has mentioned what we had was not based on a misconception of profession but as two people. She told me up front what she did for a living and while it took time for me to process it we had and still have a wonderful relationship - no longer sexual and she has since changed careers, if it had been revealed later I am not sure if I would have been as accepting of the situation.So short answer yes, with the proviso that it was known from the start.
RHP User
11 years ago
@slm114 It's also legal here in Western Australia @DickInABox Yes, girls who work for a brothel have regular health checks as part of their employment agreement.Thank you everyone for your replies. I appreciate you taking the time to respond.DD
Goldenage
11 years ago
I was in a relationship with a sex worker, a beautiful woman............ I didn't have a problem with it but she did. Why should it be a problem?Whether you know the lady you are with works in a brothel or not shouldn't matter.I know that once it's known to her partner things can change, maybe that's why the ladies who do this line of work I know of are single.They are just ordinary women after all who mainly for financial reasons resort to this.
RHP User
11 years ago
Wouldn't be a problem for me. I've met many people in different areas of the adult industry world, and it doesn't change who they are as a person. I just wish the government would pull their head out of the sand, tell conservative members where to stick it, and push for sex worker rights and regulation.
Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I wont do it..... But I don't limit my decision only to women working in the adult industry. There are others I have learned to avoid. DG
RHP User
11 years ago
15 years ago, I met a hot lady at a friends party. She looked like Trinity in the Matrix and yes she was wearing the full body suit. It was lust at first sight. We got to talking and drinking, our work came up and she told me she was a sex worker, I was stuned at first. Anyways we had a lot in common and ended up in bed, which in turn led to a 9 month relationship. The sex was amazing. She was a high class escort and made a lot and I mean a LOT of money, not that I cared about money as I was making a lot too. Her clients were all screened and it was always safe sex with them, so STD were never an issue. It wasnt easy for me knowing that she was with a lot of other guys. But I thought it was working until one day out of the blue she told me it was over. I later found out thru our friend that held the party that she had met a new client and quit the buisness and moved in with him. While it was good while it lasted, I dont recommend dating a sex worker, as you never know whats going to happen.
RHP User
11 years ago
I know a gorgeous looking woman, who works in marketing for a cigarette company, she doesn't date much.
RHP User
11 years ago
date a sex worker? why? really......why would I want to?....I particularly enjoy being 'the one'...... i'd be asking her...if she could handle sex with 'just' one guy.....on a 'not for profit' basis?
Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Great!You should probably talk to her. DG
RHP User
11 years ago
Cause only a sex worker has the monopoly on that outcome don't they ? If you getting it on with a receptionist/bank teller/ the girl behind the counter at the kebab shop all will be good .. Right ??? Stereotyping is alive and well
RHP User
11 years ago
The heart wants what the heart wants. My occupation is another of those jobs that people often thinks defines you completely as a person. I am passionate about my job, it is a big part of my life and yet it is not so much a case of my job defining me but rather my own value system and beliefs defining how I do my job. I would imagine there are many different reasons a sex worker is doing the JB he or she is doing and it doesn't necessarily define who they are any more than my job does me. I would not make a decision to date anyone based purely on what they do for a living.
RHP User
11 years ago
It can be VERY difficult! She's a high class escort and most of her clients are of the wealthiest ilk. I'm a tradie who earns good $ but its an odd feeling when she gets home with a Luis Vitton handbag that's the equivalent of a weeks wage for myself, given to her by a regular client after a dinner date and an hours screwing. Even harder is when she gets taken on holiday and showered in extravagance and money. You'd have to be semi retarded not to feel insecure in my situation. It's also hard to not wonder if she did ever happen to quit how much would the whole dynamic of the relationship change and what would the effects be? I also made the mistake of reading her website forums written graphically by clients...pictures were well and truly painted of these men with the woman I loved (not that I'm against her and I being promiscuous for fun, for some emotional reason this forum really pissed me off). Your friends and family will become judgmental too, I named this the "shit from clay effect". Your prob wondering by now why put yourself through it? Because if your worth your weight and a woman enters your life who's wholesome; intelligent, fun, attractive, inspirational and on the same wave you won't hesitate sweeping her off her feet. Hopefully this can help someone out there to make an informed decision!
RHP User
11 years ago
Johnny15, Remember that after all those men buy her things, YOU are the one she wants to curl up with every night and go to sleep with. An hour with you means more to her than a week with one of them. You give her the emotional connections (among other things) that she doesn't get or want with the men that pay for her time.
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'DarkMaiden88'Johnny15, Remember that after all those men buy her things, YOU are the one she wants to curl up with every night and go to sleep with. An hour with you means more to her than a week with one of them. You give her the emotional connections (among other things) that she doesn't get or want with the men that pay for her time. you see this as an attractive option? what if the guy want to be the 'one'.....on a 24/7 basis..ie be the one who strives to earn an income that supports a lifestyle, and enables him to be the one to purchase his lady....the material things she desires? being the one who is curled up with and slept with nightly....only fills a very small part of a persons heart...and its in reality, only a very small part of a couples relationship....its a poor consolation if this is all you have to offer in my books.... being the ONE isn't a part time thing...its a 24/7 365 day of the year commitment.
RHP User
11 years ago
MikeandShell, Not every man or woman feels the same as you do. Just because YOU couldn't handle it doesn't mean that others can't. And I urge you to be respectful of the people who have comment here and don't agree with you. You are welcome to your opinion just as they are welcome to theirs. I have had lovers and partners who loved the thought of my work, it was a turn on for them and I still have men chasing me for that reason. Some men want a slut, some men want a good girl. We're all different, be respectful of those differences.
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'DarkMaiden88' MikeandShell, Not every man or woman feels the same as you do. Just because YOU couldn't handle it doesn't mean that others can't. And I urge you to be respectful of the people who have comment here and don't agree with you. You are welcome to your opinion just as they are welcome to theirs. I have had lovers and partners who loved the thought of my work, it was a turn on for them and I still have men chasing me for that reason. Some men want a slut, some men want a good girl. We're all different, be respectful of those differences. .i'll say it again.....why would I want to? and that has absolutely nothing to do with being able to 'handle it'.... my question is also...can you "handle' a monogamous relationship that' includes an exclusive not-for -profit sexual interaction....? as for being 'respectful''......how am I not being? i'm asking questions...not hurling insults or name calling...... another question has to be..do you enjoy being a 'commodity'? and what are your 'long term plans'...for your future?.... whats 35 or 45 going to look like for you? will they include marriage, kids and all the trappings of a normal vanilla life, or do you see this as a lifetime career choice?
RHP User
11 years ago
I thought that you and Shel shared male lovers,how is that being the ''one''....or is it a different spin that I am missing here
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'AuntieEdna'I thought that you and Shel shared male lovers,how is that being the ''one''....or is it a different spin that I am missing here we are married....in every sense of the word, and neither of us does anything alone with anyone else...for profit or otherwise. what we do is together, by mutual consent and agreement.....and its 'play'..... so yea...i'm absolutely the 'one'.....as she is for me... this is 'us' enjoying something as a 'couple'....
RHP User
11 years ago
being someone's 'one and only' while they're fucking another guys cock? Uuhu, I totally see how that works and how it's completely different from dating a prostitute... who also fucks other men. O_OPlus who say's work can't be play? If you enjoy your work then isn't that the same thing?
enduran
11 years ago
Very interesting topic. I would love to get to know a sex worker on a personal level, i have never been with a sex worker in my life. As a sex worker I assume you do see a lot and that you are likely a very mature and psychological savvy person who can deal with all the challenges this job throws at you.I considered paying a prostitute just to talk to her without any 'business' but felt that this was inappropriate as well. Now to your question - given that i find it fascinating to talk to sex worker personally, I assume that i could fall in love and be with her as well. I can also separate sex from love which means i should be able to deal with her job. Of course the proof would be in the pudding as it so often is.
RHP User
11 years ago
sex work in WA is not legal, ask your local Police what act covers it, there is none. Sex work in WA is the same as NSW just de criminalized. As I said Victoria and Queensland are the ONLY states where sex work is legal.
RHP User
11 years ago
how is it 'hypocrisy'? our 'play'......is 'play'........... there are no 'gifts' gratuities' or 'recompense'.....we don't profit or gain from it at all..... other than ''enjoying ourselves"...
RHP User
11 years ago
So because she doesn't get paid for the same service you're still her 'one'? How does the exchange of money, goods or services change the same action?
RHP User
11 years ago
I hired a prostitute in Tasmania a few times and we hit it off really well. After a while she offered her services pro-bono and then we started 'dating' (going out to dinner, cooking together, sleeping without having sex). After a few months, I completely stopped even thinking about her professional activities.It's only a problem if you make it one
RHP User
11 years ago
Many years ago a mate of mine met and started seeing a sex worker, at first he seemed to be handling it but it didn't take long to see the strain on him. He loved her but couldn't handle the idea. He slowly went down hill in his dress and self care. The last time i saw him he looked as if he hadn't bathed, shaved or eaten for a fortnight, all he talked about was their relationship and what it was doing to him but he couldn't leave. By this stage he was inject all sorts of shit into his body until he OD'd. A workmate I am with at the moment is seeing a worker at the moment, I am a fifo, he is constantly consumed by jealousy whist up here, believe me realationship problems magnify when you are so faraway from home and that is just in a so called normal relationship. She is here from Malaysian and is quite obviously taking him for a ride financially but he is blinkered to it and any advice is swept away. One of his girlfriends got in trouble for drug smuggling, and got him embroiled by using his mobile phone for some of the arrangements. I know that there would be a lot of honest working girls out there, but there I could never go out with one because of what I have seen and heard.....but saying that I spend 7 years with a Raunchy but thats another story
RHP User
11 years ago
Scuse my bad speelin I am ussually a goot spella LOL
RHP User
11 years ago
well i cants see a problem with it if there is a attraction that is there there should be no problem i know of a friend who was in a situation as that, it ended badly but this was only becuase there wasnt the openness in the beginning and stating there occupation he was very deply attached but felt he was cheated out of the right to know in the begginning but i say "why the helll not!!!!"
RHP User
11 years ago
your saying its fine to play and get sex because you enjoy it but im a truck driver and enjoy every aspect of my job does that mean i cant drive a car and get paid for it same thing she loves sex and gets paid to do something she loves and as long as a prospective partner is fully aware and happy with it regardless of what goes on at work whats the difference between you and her you are happy to do what you do but its wrong if her partner knows and she is totally honest and gets paid and gifted for doing what she loves Who has it right????
RHP User
11 years ago
Anyone who answered yes to this is obviously pretty desperate imo. Have some respect for yourselves.
RHP User
11 years ago
i find it sexy.. love to here how her day was!!!
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kinky_on_wheels' While it was good while it lasted, I dont recommend dating a sex worker, as you never know whats going to happen. To be fair,that situation could happen with any woman though, not just a sex worker.
RHP User
11 years ago
If it was a very serious relationship, i.e. not just dating - then I can see it getting the best of most men.I'm open minded. If her prostitution work just involved sex and nothing else such as long romantic dates, holidays or regulars that knew as much about her as I do - then I'd be 150% fine with her being a sex worker.But if that wasn't the case, and hypothetically I did love her - I'd prefer to be the guy that takes her to the exotic place she always wanted to go, or buy her the bag/jewellery that makes her smile.Thus as the latter is always the case, the more I cared about her the more I wouldn't be able to handle it - and I don't think many decent guys would be able to.
RHP User
11 years ago
DarkMaiden, kudos to you for bringing this up.I have never hidden from any of my partners that i worked in the sex industry, and only this year I went back to it again for a while and my partner had absolutely no problem at all with it. He knew it was a job, he also knew that no matter what i did with clients, what we had was completely different.I do agree with GMerst though that it would be so much easier if workers had more rights, the only reason I didn't continue in the job this year was because the owner had no clue how to run a business, or treat her girls. There are days i still miss it and wish things had been different.There is absolutely nothing about what a sex worker does that makes us unfaithful to our partners, or unable to be "the one" for them, these views are ridiculously narrow minded.
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'DickInABox'I think I'd definitely date an honest working girl over a girl who just fucks lots of random guys for the fun of it. I think prostitutes that work at well respected brothels get regular health check ups too. what about men that fuck lots of women for the fun off it. I would think people do fuck for the fun of it. An honest person is what counts. In hi honey I fuck for money or hi honey I fuck cause I like it. on topic yes I would date a male prostitute, I would save me a fucking fortune. one of my lovers was a male hooker and he knows his stuff. Practice makes perfect. he is also built like a god, that helps.
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'AuntieEdna'I thought that you and Shel shared male lovers,how is that being the ''one''....or is it a different spin that I am missing here we are married....in every sense of the word, and neither of us does anything alone with anyone else...for profit or otherwise. what we do is together, by mutual consent and agreement.....and its 'play'..... so yea...i'm absolutely the 'one'.....as she is for me... this is 'us' enjoying something as a 'couple'.... I feel sometimes you, open your mouth to change feet. That thing on your neck is a head and in it is a brain though sometimes its lonely with only one single thought in there that says I am the way, the only way its my way or the highway.
RHP User
11 years ago
I think I would be able to do it, if communication is open and honest and clear boundaries about his/hers employment were set. I mean it wouldn't be that much different from an open relationship would it?
RHP User
11 years ago
Your reply toJohnny15 could not have been more true as a sex worker my man is the one I want to be with at the end of the day and only him
cbteager
11 years ago
When I call a woman a slut it is a term of endearment, although I would not say it to her face til she understood me. If we have a job that we love we never work a day in our lives. For my money ANY relationship can end in one partner or the other falling in love with someone else so why shouldn't the same happen in this kind of relationship. If she was in it out of desperation and or drug dependance then I might pity her but if she was in it because she loves sex and has the courage to make a living out of it then I admire her probably more than anyone else, good on her. I love the idea of a wife or girlfriend who will bring lovers home and have sex with them infront of or with me and I have enjoyed this to a degree although the opportunity has not arrisen often, so I would love a wife who screws strangers for money, I would love her to love doing it, I would love her to tell me about it when she comes home. I must agree with some sentiments mentioned above though. I would want to know from the outset and I would not want her going away with her clients or all the expensive gifts etc. I think that has the potential to cause jealousy and big relationship problems. So if you are a sex worker because you love doing it and if you keep the holidays and special times for the man you love then I have the utmost respect for you and could easily have a great attraction towards you. Love depends on love, not profession. Steve
RHP User
11 years ago
Don't have much to add, but I'm following this with interest.
RHP User
11 years ago
Why not. Under the right circumstances it wouldn't stop me.
RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you everyone for your feedback. As a worker that's recently single i've found myself questioning my line of work. Although it's enjoyable and I love it, sometimes I wonder if it's time to change. But these replies have made me realize that if a man cannot cope with my work then he isn't the man for me.
RHP User
11 years ago
thats true darkmaiden, however, as long as you understand that the type of man who will support your line of work, might not be the type of man you actually want to be with in the long term......
RHP User
11 years ago
I want to say I think its great women are able to become sex workers, after all it's their choice what they do with their bodies and if they enjoy it - then at least they have a high paying job that they love.However...Some people are saying guys should get over it as it is just sex and part of the woman's personal choice. But sex workers do a lot more than have sex with their clients. And it's the things other than the sex that are going to inevitably bite away at the relationship.In a hypothetical situation, what guy is going to sit at home for the weekend while their wife/girl friend is being treated like a woman in a james bond film being swept away in a resort somewhere in Fiji. (Hypothetical, but you get the point).And if you want a guy that doesn't care about that - then the obvious question is how much do they really care about the relationship. Just my 2 cents - but ofcourse there are always exceptions. I enjoyed reading everyone else's opinion on this :P
RHP User
11 years ago
Great thread DarkMaiden88 - interesting range of responses - I don't see a problem. Over the years, I've known some ladies in the industry as friends/acquaintances (probably some guys too but without knowing). We talked about the same sorts of things anybody talks about - their 'job/business/profession/whatever' wasn't relevant unless it came up as a normal part of conversation - the same as my own job at the time. It was only ever as relevant as anybody else's job might be in a conversation - and who wants to talk about work all the time? Given opportunity at the time, I would have been fine with dating, especially a couple of them who were bright, charming, interesting, informed and, yep, to my eyes, stunning. But they already had that side of their personal lives covered to their satisfaction.
RHP User
11 years ago
Why is every opinion on RHP forums contrary to common sense or the norm/majority. I am truly doubting any credibility of the responses I'm reading! It's a phenomenon! To conclude that roughly 80+% of men answered that they have either 'dated' sex workers; had no issues with it, or wouldn't mind if they were in that situation. I won't even entertain the possibility.... Grade A balony. - Posted from rhpmobile
enduran
11 years ago
I do have a friend who just recently married an ex-sex worker and she is absolutely lovely. Now she does not speak about her previous job and she has quit the job. But do you think all the sex-workers are single?Clearly there is a large proportion of men who do not mind, otherwise these poor ladies would have to choose between job and love.Now was my friend initially shocked? Yes. Did it take some time for him to come to terms with it? Yes. Would he ever have asked her to stop? No - because he respected her and her choice of a job. Based on their relationship (and yes, his bragging about her skills ;-)) i can only say that i would see it as a possibility.
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'shysquirt' Why is every opinion on RHP forums contrary to common sense or the norm/majority. I am truly doubting any credibility of the responses I'm reading! It's a phenomenon! To conclude that roughly 80+% of men answered that they have either 'dated' sex workers; had no issues with it, or wouldn't mind if they were in that situation. I won't even entertain the possibility.... Grade A balony. - Posted from rhpmobile Shysquirt, you haven't considered that the population of RHP aren't the norm or the majority when it comes to sexuality.You are looking at 80% of rhp not 80% of the general population. Huge difference.
cbteager
11 years ago
50zkool you are bang on the money with that. There have been a few very negative responses to this and of course there should be because we are not all the same. But the positive responses have not said "yes you must do this, how can you not? Are you insane? everyone should marry a sex worker" The negative responses have been like that though, telling us we are wrong, telling us we must have low self esteem etc. If you have a negative view on the topic please feel free to express it, that's why the forim is here. Don't tell the rest of us we are wrong or get on your high horse about it. We each have our own morals and sexual desires and guidlines, don't tell me I am crazy because I would be very happy to consider a relationship with a sex worker. It turns me on, is there something that turns you on that I might think was odd or wrong??? If so I wouldn't berate you for it I would merely say it is not my cup of tea because.................... Steve
RHP User
11 years ago
Very valid point zkool :) It's exactly why I'm here. Sexual exploration and complete freedom of my deepest darkest desires. I just can't decifer the wishy washy opinions. I can better explain myself with silly little examples/comparisons. I see it as being similar to this.... Asking 50 people whether they prefer red apples or green apples. Simple enough, right? The data can be tallied and you could conclude that out of these 50 people......this many liked green/red. But here it's like all 50 participants chose to tick no box, instead making a comment on the paper that "some people like red apples and some people like green apples!" Just bugs me. Share your knowledge with me!! Grrr X x x B - Posted from rhpmobile
RHP User
11 years ago
If youre marrying a sex worker you may want to develop a tougher skin...quickly. - Posted from rhpmobile
rupamohan
11 years ago
We were born overseas where talking to opposite gender even in a group or public place was not considered very normal. So I don't know what dating means, playmate or relationship? We respect our playmates privacy and have no interest to know their profession. We have enough intelligence to decide, based on how a person behaves with us. But if we do happen to know this. It will be simply one extra information in composite evaluation. We won't stop just because of this reason.
enduran
11 years ago
Sounds like a lot of us male forum writers appreciate your job and that the person behind the job is the most important factor in any dating decision.Perhaps we should open a sex-worker and friends circle who catches up in a pub to get to know each other better ;-)I personally am glad that there seems to be a lot of respect for sex workers here in the forum. Good on ya for standing up for the job that you love!
RHP User
11 years ago
Would it make me less of a person if I did so......noI am an awesome lovely chick....but have thought of having men pay for sex with me at one time in my life.To the men who can get over the thought of it...well done. It would be like any other day job (well a bit differrent) I can't imagine that if you were doing that, that you would come across a man taht you would want to have a relationship with.To the 23 year old responding negatively toward women that do this kind of work...perhaps when your ovaries have dropped and you accept some reality of how the world is...then you should respond (in kind)Men....or some men I should say...spray their cum around like fairy floss......does it mean I will catch something off that man if I sleep with him?? No, not if I'm careful with my sexual health...as a sex worker would do.I am pretty sure there are a lot of women working or have worked in that industry that you would not know did/do if you met themWell done to the men, who would have the maturity to deal with this fascinating subject
RHP User
11 years ago
I was in a relationship with a worker after my divorce. This went on for about 3-4 years and it didnt end well. "She" continued going back and forth over this time and every time it was over "her" drug addiction. She loved the work, I had no problem as to me, it was her job. But the drugs killed it. Last I heard, she moved interstate, her new partner died from and od and once again she is back on the gear..But thats not to say it can't work..
sydney_tradie
11 years ago
i dated a very attractive girl who did massarges with extraswe dated for about 6 monthsgreat girl very clean n safe not into drugs or anything like thatalmost felt like i was dating a pornstar , it was great it was fun
RHP User
11 years ago
you know where you both stand. If you both accept it then there is no issue :)
RHP User
11 years ago
I never referred to women/men in the sex industry negatively. I have vno problems with it at all and would be lying to say I hadn't considered it for myself. I'm more interested in the little known about "ovary dropping" of my reproductive system? I was unaware of the process Condescending is unsexy - Posted from rhpmobile
RHP User
11 years ago
Guys, really whats the difference in dating a sex worker and what you do in this lifestyle we lead you wouldn't live with a sex worker that gets paid to do it, but you will go and share your wife with anyone in the house at the time, for free the payment aside whats the difference, sex is sex we do it because we like it the wife and I love this life personaly I wouldn't care if she was a sex worker, I don't get jeolous can't see the point in waisting energy on it Robbie,,,
RHP User
11 years ago
You go girl,, :) going on your picture there above me I would pay you darlin :)
RHP User
11 years ago
bollywood sex
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'robw666' You go girl,, :) going on your picture there above me I would pay you darlin :) thank you for your kind words....x
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'shysquirt' I never referred to women/men in the sex industry negatively. I have vno problems with it at all and would be lying to say I hadn't considered it for myself. I'm more interested in the little known about "ovary dropping" of my reproductive system? I was unaware of the process Condescending is unsexy - Posted from rhpmobileWell, I must have read your post incorrectly? Athough I doubt itand meh to the past part...sarcasm isn't your strong point. Its ok
RHP User
11 years ago
I dont believe that a person is defined by their occupation.....its a job, nothing more nothing less, so whats the problem?
Playful2looking
11 years ago
i wil be honest I am not sure I guess it really depends on the person as regardless of the job there would have to be a conection for the relationship to work. I guess I would be cool about it but really like i said I am not sure. An erotic dancer or stripper yes no problem because i can can clearly define that in my head as a job or entertainer. A sex worker is still a job yes but sex can be such a powerful connection between two people. The answer is maybe yes I could date and marry a sex worker. but it would for me totally came down to her personality and how we related to each other and her job.
RHP User
11 years ago
Bring it on I say!! As long as she practises safe sex and puts whenever and wherever I want it fair game!!
RHP User
11 years ago
What the? As long as she puts out whenever and wherever you want it? Really? Not sure if you meant it the way it sounds but that sounds very immature to me. 🐷
RHP User
11 years ago
So I took a break from RHP and from most social sites for the last few month and I completely forgot about this thread. I'm glad to see the discussion has continued in my absence as it made for an interesting read.I also have completely left 'that side' of the industry and taken up a position within a group of people that are amazing. I now manage advertising (among other things) for the new talent emerging in the industry through Australia's Premier Escort Directory (google it, you'll figure it out lol)So while this topic doesn't directly impact me, I think it is still something that is interesting to discuss for many reasons. But i'm sure there are those out there that would still consider my job to be too close for comfort.
RHP User
11 years ago
If u look deeper into old laws of our country u will find that a brothel is still illegal yet it's legal to b a street walker ?? Odd it may b but te laws have not changed since started in late 1700s then again there is still a current law re unemployment ? It's a crime to b unemployed yet we have centalink lol anyway I love the old stuff that never court up with current times
RHP User
11 years ago
I have comments and experience on this subject however I won't put any of them in writing to protect the innocent (and I don't think anyone would believe me anyway).What I will say is that I know quite a few Service Providers in QLD on a personal level (not in a professional "I was a customer" way) and they are all awesome ladies, some with husbands, some with boyfriends, some with no partners at all, some are mothers and some are nothing you would ever imagine.They are just like any other woman you meet down the shops or at the beach... they don't have fly's buzzing around them or weeping welts... they are human and have the same needs and wants as everyone else. They just chose a profession that is left field from the socially accepted norm.
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Warning69' If u look deeper into old laws of our country u will find that a brothel is still illegal yet it's legal to b a street walker ?? Odd it may b but te laws have not changed since started in late 1700s then again there is still a current law re unemployment ? It's a crime to b unemployed yet we have centalink lol anyway I love the old stuff that never court up with current times You've got that backward. Brothels are legal as long as they are in the correct zone. They cannot be in a residential area. Street walking (Hooking/Hooker) is illegal. The law also says that you cannot live on the proceeds of prostitution, but there are loopholes everywhere.What you are forgetting that if 2 laws contradict each other then either a)the law passed by the higher ranking government overturns the other. eg. State law overturns council law. or b) the most recent law replaces the older one.Plus there is no law about being unemployed, you may want to check your sources.
RHP User
11 years ago
You do tend to get annoyed with some as they workmore than they should.The other thing is you worry for there safety andthat means stress so at least for me the answer is ---NOTried that and wont go back.
RHP User
11 years ago
there is nothing wrong with it as long as both of you no where you stand with each other and be honest when discussing it, it can work i dated one for 3yrs and we where very close and still are even though we are just friends now and stopped sleeping with each other and she knows i still here to talk to about thing others dont just get and we are better friends now than ever
RHP User
11 years ago
If she was the sex worker it would depend on his coping mechanisms. Like Dickinabox said, not for him. Some people can separate it, but I'd bet they are few and far between. And I would hazard to guess fewer women could cope with a sexually employed male partner. It takes a real strength of character & self worth to deal with a partner working within the sex industry, be they a sex worker or a sex therapist or any dominion in between.
RHP User
11 years ago
I wouldn't have a problem with it ..theoretically of course since im married. But I would expect her to work overtime once she got home lol
RHP User
11 years ago
ive been there and done the relationship thing with a couple of sex workers over the years its only a job ironicly i split up with one because she was a compulsive liar and and not realy very good in her trade and drifted away from the other when i went travelling . I would say that a lot more people have partnered with sex workers or ex sex workers than they realise as why should people tell there past if you are going to judge them plus better a sex worker tan a politician its less dirty and more honest
qup2cy
11 years ago
Have dated a sex worker I was 21 at the time she was 35. Nothing but a great experience I certainly learnt allot and the better for it. Would do it again in a heartbeat. I have always had the belief that do be a sex worker you have to have amazing self confidence and a strong mind and those qualities certainly appeal to me.
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'FourHands' Quoting 'shysquirt' I never referred to women/men in the sex industry negatively. I have vno problems with it at all and would be lying to say I hadn't considered it for myself. I'm more interested in the little known about "ovary dropping" of my reproductive system? I was unaware of the process Condescending is unsexy - Posted from rhpmobileWell, I must have read your post incorrectly? Athough I doubt itand meh to the past part...sarcasm isn't your strong point. Its ok you did read her posts incorrectly. Shysquirt never made any reference to sex workers, she was talking about the men responding to the OP.
RHP User
11 years ago
I might have a few years ago (in fact I did, although I thought she only danced/gave massages at the time). Unlike most people who seem less conservative as they get older though, I guess I went the other way. I am completely monogamous, and would expect that to work both ways. I would not want my partner to be doing anything with other guys, whether it's for work or just fun would make little difference to me.
RHP User
11 years ago
Hi I Book a escort one night and after 2 hours we didnt finish but she had a booking after me so she gave me here personal number and we met the following. We really hit off and date for about 6months I wasnt looking for anything more searious as I had just come out of relationship.I would see a working girl again if we are compatable what I find most say works work.
Fantasyplus
11 years ago
Not really a great deal I can say Darkmaiden but well done! :-) It takes a very strong man to be able to handle/cope/deal with his Wife/Partner/Girlfriend being a working girl.... It takes a very strong willed woman to be able to be a working girl as well as a wife/Partner/Girlfriend... Together they both have to have trust and open lines of communication for the relationship to work. It is a job, it has been around for centuries, get over it! If you love sex and love to fuck, why the hell not get paid for it? Darkmaiden...how many clients have you ever said No to? How many times a year did you have to supply a certificate to prove your health and cleanliness? How many times have you seen drunks refused service or removed from the premises? How often were the sheets changed after the service was complete? ( There is a point to my questions) Mrs Fantasy X
RHP User
11 years ago
I have dated a sex worker and it was definatly fun while it lasted. I enjoyed going down on her and tasting that condom flavour after shed been out. Shed tell stories and it was hot. The one day, herphone was disconnected and shed moved out.
RHP User
10 years ago
I can't answer for other states as I think the laws may vary a little... however for QLD:Darkmaiden...how many clients have you ever said No to? - Can't speak for Darkmaiden but my Service Provider (SP) friends were able to say no when ever they liked... there are a few issues with saying no in that if shifts are hard to come by (as a limited number of SPs can work in an establishment on any given shift) they may be turned down for a shifts if the clients complain to often about you saying no.How many times a year did you have to supply a certificate to prove your health and cleanliness? - In QLD the requirement is a new Cert every 3 months with full blood tests every 6 months. Certs are easy to get, you go and see your local GP and they will do an inspection (a little like a gyno checkup) and if needed order blood tests. the Certs are in your real name, not your working name and only the Doctor, the establishment, the QLD Health inspector and you are allowed to view a copy. (You keep the original and the establishment keeps a copy on record)How many times have you seen drunks refused service or removed from the premises? - Happens a lot and depending on the management of the establishment as to how well the dunks/miscreants are removed. Management will refuse entry to someone too drunk if the establishment is good. Also all establishments are required to provide some form of panic button in case of a belligerent client.How often were the sheets changed after the service was complete? - Most establishments require the SP to change the sheets unless it is a very busy night (Days are usually quiet unless there is a flight just arrived from the mining fields or there is some special event in town). Sheets are to be changed after each service and the SP is required to clean the shower/spa etc as well.Hope that helps with some of your queries... all states will have the rules and requirements published on the state government web site... just need to hunt them down.
RHP User
10 years ago
Could you handle it if I was your partner and a Full service Escort for Women and Couples?
Fantasyplus
10 years ago
Quoting 'Amicus75' I can't answer for other states as I think the laws may vary a little... however for QLD:Darkmaiden...how many clients have you ever said No to? - Can't speak for Darkmaiden but my Service Provider (SP) friends were able to say no when ever they liked... there are a few issues with saying no in that if shifts are hard to come by (as a limited number of SPs can work in an establishment on any given shift) they may be turned down for a shifts if the clients complain to often about you saying no.How many times a year did you have to supply a certificate to prove your health and cleanliness? - In QLD the requirement is a new Cert every 3 months with full blood tests every 6 months. Certs are easy to get, you go and see your local GP and they will do an inspection (a little like a gyno checkup) and if needed order blood tests. the Certs are in your real name, not your working name and only the Doctor, the establishment, the QLD Health inspector and you are allowed to view a copy. (You keep the original and the establishment keeps a copy on record)How many times have you seen drunks refused service or removed from the premises? - Happens a lot and depending on the management of the establishment as to how well the dunks/miscreants are removed. Management will refuse entry to someone too drunk if the establishment is good. Also all establishments are required to provide some form of panic button in case of a belligerent client.How often were the sheets changed after the service was complete? - Most establishments require the SP to change the sheets unless it is a very busy night (Days are usually quiet unless there is a flight just arrived from the mining fields or there is some special event in town). Sheets are to be changed after each service and the SP is required to clean the shower/spa etc as well.Hope that helps with some of your queries... all states will have the rules and requirements published on the state government web site... just need to hunt them down.Thank you Amicus....I already knew the answers lol, my point is, it is one of the cleanest and most health regulated jobs in Australia.It is a job the same as any other, you do medicals the same as miners, pilots, truck drivers...you all use instruments and have tools of your trade. It is just a freakin job and one were if the female is in the right mind set, she can make a shit load of money and fast!
Fantasyplus
10 years ago
Thank you Amicus....I already knew the answers lol, my point is, it is one of the cleanest and most health regulated jobs in Australia.It is a job the same as any other, you do medicals the same as miners, pilots, truck drivers...you all use instruments and have tools of your trade. It is just a freakin job and one were if the female is in the right mind set, she can make a shit load of money and fast!Mrs Fantasyx
PixieMischief
10 years ago
It takes a brave man to be with a strong & independent woman. There are brave men out there who are not fuelled solely by ego. I also find amusing the amount of time the words "resorted to…. (sex work)" have been used. Resorted to? or chosen to?
RHP User
10 years ago
live with one and still working as one, have been for 17 year, married her, children to her, love her and will always love and respect her.
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