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Cuckolding - a few q's
July 11 2014
Is it actually cuckolding if the husband is not present or is the term fluid? If hubby approves but has no interest really being there? If not what would it be called? Also if the 'bull' and the wife have an ongoing sexual relationship - would it still be called cuckolding? Or is it more to do with one- nighters?
I am unable to find this info from here or other sources so apologies if this has been done to death before.
I really hate labels but would love to know if I fit into a 'category'. We are new but finding my feet with all the new terminology.
Thank you
Susan
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hey Susan, A quick Google returned:
"Cuckolded men (aka "cucks") only observe their wives’ infidelities, they don’t participate. And that's why they find it a turn-on: They're left out, looking on as the woman they love climaxes with a better man than them. It’s a form of psychological sadomasochism. Some people get turned on by whips, chains, and physical pain. Cucks get aroused by mental anguish."
Sounds pretty fucked up to me, more fun if the partner joins in :)RHP User
10 years ago
Yep everything I read is where they are present but do not participate. Like they being the husband get turned on if they see another man 'the bull' fulfilling their duties with their wife but what about if they are not present? I wonder if there is a another term? hmmmm
Quoting 'BlurredLines42' Hey Susan, A quick Google returned:
"Cuckolded men (aka "cucks") only observe their wives’ infidelities, they don’t participate. And that's why they find it a turn-on: They're left out, looking on as the woman they love climaxes with a better man than them. It’s a form of psychological sadomasochism. Some people get turned on by whips, chains, and physical pain. Cucks get aroused by mental anguish."
Sounds pretty fucked up to me, more fun if the partner joins in :)RHP User
10 years ago
Nothing is black and white...If someone wants to mix it up and call it cuckold, cuckish, cockatoo whatever ..Its up to them. Personally , i like to watch my wife get fucked but sometimes i like to join in as well .what am i then? a cuck a doodle do?? lol
RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'BlurredLines42' Hey Susan, A quick Google returned:
"Cuckolded men (aka "cucks") only observe their wives’ infidelities, they don’t participate. And that's why they find it a turn-on: They're left out, looking on as the woman they love climaxes with a better man than them. It’s a form of psychological sadomasochism. Some people get turned on by whips, chains, and physical pain. Cucks get aroused by mental anguish."
Sounds pretty fucked up to me, more fun if the partner joins in :)
Blurredlines42 has nailed it.. They are supposed to just watch, However experience has proved they usually join in. Invited or not.RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'goldcoastcple69' Nothing is black and white...If someone wants to mix it up and call it cuckold, cuckish, cockatoo whatever ..Its up to them. Personally , i like to watch my wife get fucked but sometimes i like to join in as well .what am i then? a cuck a doodle do?? lol
Thanks for the laugh Cuck a doodle do!RHP User
10 years ago
My husbands my cuck -and I'm his hot-wife.
We don't have set rules or guidelines. We are first and foremost a team. We have experimented with most of the cuck holding cliches - I've said this in other posts. Interracial, degradation.....sometimes we have home through the night, roles intact. Other nights gotten half way through and, haha FUCK IT! All in!!!!!!!! Whoop whoop!
Like anything, find the balance that suits you - and remind yourself if your heads not in it, it ain't gonna happen :-P
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
10 years ago
The cuck doesn't need to be present or even meet any of his Hotwives Bulls, lovers, fb's or randoms. He is turned on by knowing that his partner is fucking other guys and coming back to him.
There are so many variences to cuckolding and a lot of fetishes that go along with it, what works for some doesn't for others, how your relationship works and whether you want to label yourselves is up to you and will probably evolve and change over time.
There are a lot of cuckolding groups on fetlife, most are american and can seem a little extreme to the newly cucked (even those not so new ;) but there are some aussie ones and of course we have a fair few Hotwives active on the forums, so you should get a variety of responses.
For us, I play solo as well as with my husband present, whether he participates, is tied to a chair next to the bed or a bit of both and the level of humiliation used depends on the comfort level and fantasies of the guy whose come to play. It is always discussed prior and never sprung on someone unawares.RHP User
10 years ago
my observation is it varies from couple to couple. Some males are happy to watch their wife/ girlfriend fucking another male . The visual is the turn on while others prefer to watch first then join the action. I hate the term cuckold' in my opinion' it's one of them terms used as a put down for something others don't understand. Admittedly '. It takes balls to follow through with something as challenging , some can't and should leave it as a fantasy. But for those who accept it for what it is 'and without jealousys , they appear to be very happy couples... Just my observation...
RHP User
10 years ago
If your hubby's not present , he's definitely not cuckold. ( hate the term ). I would say your relationship is more suited to the word open and understanding. Question? Would you mind if your hubby was present and/or would he like to be present ? Just curious...
RHP User
10 years ago
Cuckold fetish is not just watching... It can involve much much.. Fucking only after the bull.. Servicing the wife and bull, cuckold cleanup as licking her clean after the bull covers her in cum etc etc
And yes, what you have is a form of cuckold... Even more so when you have an ongoing relationship with mental connection.. The bull provides everything you need sexually and your husband just puts up with it
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
10 years ago
I disagree. I think some cucks prefer to stay at home and hear all about it after the fact. Everyone is different. To me a husband that ends up joining in .... Unless he is being submissive ... Is not a cuck at all. That is just a normal threesome isn't it?
RHP User
10 years ago
I disagree. I think some cucks prefer to stay at home and hear all about it after the fact. Everyone is different. To me a husband that ends up joining in .... Unless he is being submissive ... Is not a cuck at all. That is just a normal threesome isn't it?
RHP User
10 years ago
OP is your hubby turned on by it? Does he want to hear all the details? Maybe like the humiliation aspect of it all? If not, that is he is happy for you to date others but that doesn't actually turn him on, then that means he isn't a cuckold I don't think. Just someone who is okay with his wife bonking other people.
Hmmm we need a little more I information before we can make a call. :PRHP User
10 years ago
A threesome?
Tell me the difference between humiliation and degredation?
Can we label a curious fantasy as a dishonest fetish because the rules have been bent?
1. He is my cuck because when we fuck, and I call out my deepest fantasies - that's what he is.
2. We play by our rules. To commit to anyone else's set would compromise our relationship. He cucks, I fuck and sometimes we meet in the middle....
3. We are ourselves and honor our priorities. The most important guideline for all swingers. - be true to yourself. A fetish is a fetish because those that partake know what, how and mostly why they do. Experiment with names, ideals.......even dirty filthy texts to your FB's. There's so many things to try, and if hot fudge isn't your flavor, vanillas always a safe bet.
Be a cuck, a sub, a Dom, princess, switch, brat, slave....
But until you feel safe in your own skin - no labels exist until you want them.....
Mrs B (Oprah on the weekends)
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
10 years ago
Yep.
Not all Cucks are present; some get off at the detail that she gives him. Some may even the bull cream pie'ing the queen and have him eat it when she returns.
Cuckolding is like any other lifestyle choice. It's adaptable, and definable by those entering into it.
Meeka is also right about the threesome part too; but once again can be adapted for humiliation purposes. I've heard of some queens getting the cuck to taste her juices straight off the bulls cock.
I hope this helps.....
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' OP is your hubby turned on by it? Does he want to hear all the details? Maybe like the humiliation aspect of it all? If not, that is he is happy for you to date others but that doesn't actually turn him on, then that means he isn't a cuckold I don't think. Just someone who is okay with his wife bonking other people.
Hmmm we need a little more I information before we can make a call. :P
He does get turned on by it but I do not go into details....so perhaps not a real cuck?
Thank you MeekaRHP User
10 years ago
I like what you had to say.. Obviously you guys got it right for what you want.. End of the day.. be true to yourself , know yourself.. enjoy yourself.. Jay
RHP User
10 years ago
and the bull is the victor. The cuck doesn't need to be present, he just needs to know/hear about it.
RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks everyone, you have cleared up a lot in my head!
RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I disagree. I think some cucks prefer to stay at home and hear all about it after the fact. Everyone is different. To me a husband that ends up joining in .... Unless he is being submissive ... Is not a cuck at all. That is just a normal threesome isn't it? he joins in at that time , it is a threesome ofcourse..But before that while he was watching, anticipating, thinking about it etc his a cuck i guess..Like i said , like alot of things in life its not all black and white..
There is no universal law hidden in the depths of the Vatican vaults , that reveal a cuck is this and that only..You can be a cuck one min and 3some loving whore man the next..I guess you can call it "multifetishing" ..(i made that up)lolRHP User
10 years ago
It's labelled a fetish because it's outside the bounds of societal expectation, that means you can do what you want with it, the cuck doesn't have to be there, the bull doesn't have to be a self righteous tool, you don't have to indulge in humiliation or whatever else cuckold porn portrays.
Porn has to take a concept and blow it up out of proportion in order for it to be recognised quickly and simply by the viewer, and they use similar situations over and over for easy recognition of the theme until people mistakenly believe that 'this' is how you do 'that'.
Fetishes can be quite complex and individualised and that's what makes them fun and interesting.
xx SarahRHP User
10 years ago
done in front of the cuck, particularly if he is tied up or is forced to wear a cock cage. If it is true cuckold it would be performed in a way to humiliate.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Being_Me' done in front of the cuck, particularly if he is tied up or is forced to wear a cock cage. If it is true cuckold it would be performed in a way to humiliate.
- Posted from rhpmobile No, that's how you prefer it. There's is no One True Way when it comes to any kink.
Just no.RHP User
10 years ago
A lot of truth in what you had to say... One persons fetish / fantasy is not anothers. Couples Ive known ' mainly wanted to experiment with nearly all mentioning the familiarity in the bedroom thing. Never did I see or think of the male as cuckold. Most couples just wanted to spice up their love life with something / someone different. If the tables were turned and the female watched another woman fuck her man' would we call her as a cuckolette ? Don't think so , we probally think how liberated she is.. It's common knowledge many men like the idea of watching their lady getting it off with another male. Some act on it ' others just think about it and leave it as a fantasy. Either way is good' and hats off to the couples who do it right.. BTW.. being a straight male has never been a problem for me.
RHP User
10 years ago
"If the tables were turned and the female watched another man" would we call her as a cuckolette?"
I have been trying to find information about the wife/female partner sitting back and watching "her man" being fkd by another. I see it less as humiliation but as a proud joyous act. More of a "isn't he fantastic" type of thing. It's actually something I would like to experience when my fwb and I get to that stage.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'goldcoastcple69' Nothing is black and white...If someone wants to mix it up and call it cuckold, cuckish, cockatoo whatever ..Its up to them. Personally , i like to watch my wife get fucked but sometimes i like to join in as well .what am i then? a cuck a doodle do?? lol
RHP User
10 years ago
I think you may have miss read what I had to say. . That is '. ... If the tables were turned and a woman watched another woman fuck her man '. Would she be called a cuckolette.. I think you were thinking another man? Either that or I miss read.. lol....
RHP User
10 years ago
Lol as with cuckolding it seems to be open to interpretation ;)
and with that im just going to sit with the visual of another chicky being serviced by my man ;) ahhh the happy places lol
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
10 years ago
I too come under the general descriptor of a "Cuckolder" (Cuckoldee?) .
There are many interpretations on this forum for this term and most are accurate.
For myself I like to watch my girl fuck others and I find it an incredible turn on. At some stage I usually join in and I always fuck her afterwards. For instance we were at a swingers party years ago and we paired off with another couple and had same room sex with each others wife. My girl and her partner finished fairly quickly and they both left the room. She came back a little later to check on my progress just as I had run out of steam on the lady I was servicing trying to achieve my third orgasm. My girl told me she had just been serviced by someone else at the party and I was incredibly aroused by this and got her to ride me wherein I quickly achieved my elusive third orgasm.
I would also like her take on two lovers while I watch
I don't want the humiliation/degradation thing I just like to watch or at least hear about it.
So make of that what you can!RHP User
10 years ago
You two are a prime sample of how it should be done. Its about allowing each other the freedom to explore..
RHP User
10 years ago
Would you consider yourself more of a hot wifer than a cuckold ?
Cheers, WRHP User
10 years ago
You experience so much more watching.
Thing about it when you're participating you are thinking about yourself, how to pleasure her, a whole lot of stuff.
When you're watching you see and experience so much more and don't forget the preparation and the aftermath you get to share that with her as opposed to being on the opposite side of the coin.
Oh and yes I get a buzz out of other men wanting my wife and doing everything they can to please her
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
10 years ago
I was never sure what Cuckolding was all about till now, good question OP... I think I have a good understanding now, these forums rule..
RHP User
10 years ago
i just love watching my wife enjoy herself and not being physically involved actually enhances the experience.
When you're physically involve you miss a lot of the detail like the way her toes point when that big cock is really filling her up or her eyes widen when her arse is being rimmed.
Reliving it by talking about makes for the hottest sex.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
I like the cuckold thing because if you're involved in having sex you miss what is happening with your partner.
I love watching Lek get fucked by a couple of guys for two reasons,
1) I get to see all the detail of her enjoying herself, facial expressions body movements sounds that I couldn't appreciate if I was the one pleasuring her
2) She doesn't need to be concerned about her partner she can be totally selfish because the bulls know they have to perform or they don't get asked back two guys can keep her cumming way past her peak
I just love that sticky sweaty musky sensation of her when she's been fucked into unconsciousness
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
Cool subject what a turn on! I recently watched my wife hook up with a guy at a swingers club and it was one of the most intense pleasures Ive ever had. Never been so hard in my life and after he finished I fucked her hard having one of the most intense orgasms of my life! We are a very secure happy couple that have been together for a long time, it has spiced up our sex life unbelievably and I love talking about it and reliving it with her. I dont know about needing to brand it, an awesome fantasy was realised and cant wait to do it again!
- Posted from rhpmobile
Uniride
9 years ago
Quoting 'charliegirlwa' "If the tables were turned and the female watched another man" would we call her as a cuckolette?"
- Posted from rhpmobile I think she would be called a Cuck-Queen.
QLDtwo4fun
9 years ago
I don't understand. So is it the element t of humiliation that makes it cuckolding. I don't find my wife haveing fun the least bit humiliating. I enjoy seeing or knowing she is enjoy herself. We also enjoy playing together with others, as long as everyone has fun.
worlddelight
9 years ago
We play together or apart as opportunity allows. We do things that sometimes fit into other people's definition of various things. I like to be actively cuckolded by my wife sometimes. Other times I watch or I'm not even present. Sometimes I play the bull with other couples. My understanding of the word cuckold is a man whose woman has sex with another man. I think its a fluid thing. It might be that he's happy for her to play and get something she wants from outside the relationship. Or she may be full time in charge of his sex life denying him anything and romping with one or many bulls with or without his approval. She may be punishing him for misdeeds of his own, he may be kept in chastity, humiliated by the bull, made to watch, not allowed to watch, denied all sex by her but made to 'clean her up' afterwards. He may be sissified, he might be a house slave made to select her lingerie for her lover, assist her in bathing and preparing for each big date, made to be her personal intimate beautician, he may be a fluffer for the bull or be given to the bull as a surogate play thing..... The cuckold might live the life 24/7 or just time to time. He might just be a bloke who likes that his wife is a sexual being and has no problem with that in any form it might take. I think its whatever you want it to be. But there's nothing like watching a dominant guy do things to your wife that you personally dont want to have to apologise for later. Talk about it, play some games and see what you like.... Have fun
RHP User
9 years ago
here here>>>> applause... well responded and really resonating...... we make our own rules and roles as we evolve and its so fantastic to see the minds open outside the labels and pre curser rulebook...... number one safety... number two respect...... once you are equipped the world is your oyster...... love you guys!!!! BURRRRP!!!!
RHP User
9 years ago
im not being a little suck here.... unless its your pussay!!!!! but great answers... especially keywords like individual..complex and fun... i think your all correct..... our profile is shut coz we just opened it but i wanted to message especially meeks and sarah curious...... you get my blood boiling...... keep up the safety...respect and all round fun you PERVERTS!!!!!! MAKE IT UP AS YOU EVOLE AND NEEDS CHANGE....... all involved in agreeance and your off!!!!
RHP User
8 years ago
We do that all the time and enjoy it. We are in a cuckold relationship with our next door neighbour. His name is Alan and he works for the fire service. He has been fucking my wife for more than 5 years now. We only ever have sex together when we go on vacations together. I work in an office 8:30 to 5:00, she is a stay at home Mom. When I leave and bring the kids to the school Alan is just about to get up. Goes over to our house, makes himself and my Missus a coffee, joins her in bed. The two normally have their morning fuck, then they go out do the shopping or go out together. In the afternoon they often have another nookie and my wife then stays in the house, while Alan collects our kids from school. Alan is their favourite "Uncle". Then Alan starts his shift and I come home from work and get a quick cum-filled nookie from my wife in the upstairs bathroom. All are happy. I think a few people have cottoned-on to the what is going on but we don't care. We enjoy this.
My wife wants to have more kids. But that is another story.
I just love the feeling when I am at work and know that my wife in the very moment is being fucked by our friend Alan with his fireman's hose. What an incredibly tickle in my belly. Makes me so horny.
blackbig
8 years ago
Interesting topic. I have met interesting couples whose life has reach high level of fulfillment practising cuckolding .
I believe open relationship is relationship is something which shares some features of cuckolding . The two can coexist, but are two different identities . The bull theme is essential in cuckolding. Happy cuckolding leads to happy life. Just my experience 🙏🏾
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
8 years ago
All too often people hear a term like cuckolding and then go online and read about it and to the uninitiated there sometimes appears to be only one definition. As some of you have already commented there are no hard and fast rules to what is, or what is not kink. There is no single definition of cuckold, or dom, or domme, or any of the other things on this site. They are what you make them. So lets not get our knickers in a knot over what is, or what isn't and just enjoy what we like, for what it is, rather than try to fit someone else's definition. After all their way may not necessarily be what you want, but your own variation may be mind blowing.Remember, if you and whoever you are with enjoy it then it must be good.
RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'BlurredLines42'
Hey Susan, A quick Google returned:
"Cuckolded men (aka "cucks") only observe their wives’ infidelities, they
don’t participate. And that's why they find it a turn-on: They're left
out, looking on as the woman they love climaxes with a better man than
them. It’s a form of psychological sadomasochism. Some people get turned
on by whips, chains, and physical pain. Cucks get aroused by
mental anguish."
Sounds pretty fucked up to me, more fun if the partner joins in :)
Im with you mate your comment is a crack up! fucked up alright when you get off at feeling inferior.RHP User
6 years ago
Agree.... The Victor is the winner always...
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