Crossdresser frustrations

March 08 2016

Okay I've been told I look to young but I'm of age guys have refused to meet me and there aren't many other crossdresser willing to meet may I ask what I'm doing wrong

- Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    8 years ago

    without knowing the messages that flow between you and the guys, hard to tell where the cracks are in your interaction.
    Your pics are great, it shows your full body pic and a bit for your face. I assume you have a facial pic in your private gallery.
    Your profile is terse but not bad as there are no Ask me. I like that you state in your profile what it is you want and is whatever else is open to discussion between you and the men.
    Now, you have 18 friends, surely some of them are willing to meet up? So you have nto met any of your friends? Maybe just ask them for a coffee or beer, no pressure and see how you go.
    It is my opinion that because you live in a small town, that the men are very wary of meeting up for fear of being labeled homophobic? Do you think this is a valid assumption? I grew up in a victorian country town., Even though it seem quite progressive at the moment, there is still the small country town mentality and homophobia is alive and well. Very sad.
    Maybe you should think of meeting men outside town where nobody knows you or any of the men. Discretion may be the key and if you can guarantee that with your 'nervous' men friends, that may work. Suggest to meet outside familiar areas, say 2 towns away.
    I wish you the best of luck and hope things work for you.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    you are not doing anything wrong.You haven't given us a lot of information but I will give you my take on what I'm reading and filling in some blanks from my experience.You live in a country city which reduces the amount of hookups that become available. Being a smaller city, people will have excuses to cancel meets or be too nervous due to the fear of people knowing too many people. In a big city, you can become anonymous and lose yourself in the hustle and bustle. People are more out there and less cautious.But don't think those of us in the city don't experience the excuses and the knock backs, it's just there are many more people to take their place in the queue. It's a numbers game.If you get the excuse that you are too young and that is worrying you, then there are steps you can take that can add some years to your look. Makeup. It can do wonders. It can take years off and put years on. Makeup is your best friend.It's something that Ts/Tg's need to master early on. Cd/Tv's there is less urgency to master but the desire to is there.You are young and I do not know if you are fully into make up or rely on your young complexion to get the look.In my early days, makeup was a big unknown and was all trial and error. These days there are so many tutorials on the internet, you can find any info you need. I'm still refining makeup techniques 40 years on trying to perfect my look. I'm trying to take years off and can take 10-15 years off. You can add 10 years with the right colors and application. Research or take a makeup course. Plenty of options for you to learn. You have a young look. Appreciate it and work it to your advantage.As my friends say, "own it sista". Confidence in owning it will make you feel better in yourself. Easier said than done but you will get there. If you want more advice, flirt me and I will message you.If not, good luckAuntie Annie.............XX

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Thanks yeah a small group town Mildura is but thanks for helping wish I lived in like a big city

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'lilybethyname'

    It is my opinion that because you live in a small town, that the men are very wary of meeting up for fear of being labeled homophobic? Do you think this is a valid assumption? I grew up in a victorian country town., Even though it seem quite progressive at the moment, there is still the small country town mentality and homophobia is alive and well. Very sad.
    'homosexual'

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Yes I live in a very homophobic town that's a right assumption made people are scared to show their true self

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    dick envy??

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I lived there for. a short time in the 80s...I had to leave not because of my sexuality but my politics...I am sure nothing much has changed....perhaps if you can afford to ,travel to Melbourne for a weekend and organise to meet up there xxFreya

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I'll tell you a story about my best friend that's a girl that has a cross dressing friend that lives in a medium town . They go to a pub a lot where the C/D is accepted only place in town anyway she went to the ladies toilet as you do dressed and a young girl was disgusted that she used the toilet in her presence.
    The bitch of a chick went to the owner of the pub and complained that she shouldn't have used the ladies !!!!
    His reply was " for fuck sake We live in this day and age get the fuck out of my pub bitch "
    What I'm trying to tell you people are accepting and chin up you will evolve in time and be proud of you and love yourself
    All the best and can I borrow your outfit ?

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Happy ending and which outfit send me a message

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Your pretty and you cant judge you by others standards only live by your own standards
    We all are cautious careful and apprehensive at times and sometimes people contact us thinking they want to meet but they are in love with the idea more than the reality
    Mildura is small, shit Melbourne is small as well ..
    You learn over time who is serious about meeting and who is curious. Also you learn how to pick those that want to meet and be out & about with you & who just want you hidden
    Best done in a place where your confident.
    Have fun Alice ...
    loved Ms Opal's story - hot top too

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    reading your profile and looking through your pics I can see no reason why you are not getting messages and flirts left right and centre but I guess some people are strange
    but I do hope you accept my request

  • jodec9

    jodec9

    7 years ago

    Hi,
    You're not doing anything wrong at all. Just haven't found the right audience. It's hard for some to accept that they like doing it or on the other side are attracted to us.
    Once they do, the passion is incredible.
    I'd like to chat more about it with you. Message me for my kik username and I'll listen and point you in the right direction.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Very !

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Growing a beard?! Then they'll know you're definitely not too young 👍🏻

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    7 years ago

    Your attempt at humour? Yes just an attempt

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I agree with the others, your photos are lovely and you're attractive. One thing with your profile is that your age is showing as 21 but in your writing it says you're 19 - might want to update that especially given people's comments about your age ;)

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    nothing wrong with you at all hunni ,,,,bring that sexy ass to perth n let catherine make a woman off you ,,,yummmmmmm ,,xxxxcatherine ,,