Cheating in an open relationship

Cheating in an open relationship

    | Mar 01, 2017
mrnmsbhavn2500   Couple Man 42yrs Woman 39yrs
Hi sexy people.

What is your take on finding out your partner is sending sexts and having discreet meetings with other people, though you may be in an open relationship where you have agreed to be honest? Is it cheating or is it just a thrill thing?

B & R
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CucknShells   Woman 49yrs

Annie

What made you think that Jean_Girard is a single man.

In his profile he says attached and refers to his relationship.

Him and his partner have been on the forums for a long time.

Shells.
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 54yrs

Lovingit

It's not being selfish to give your partner sexual freedom, it's selfless. Are you 100% sure kc is completely fulfilled? Due respect but you won't know. But same applies for both partners, rules to me are selfish, particularly with monogamy. Don't get me started on that lol but selfless, not selfish πŸ˜‰
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 54yrs

Ok

I didn't look at Jean Girard's profile. My bad.

What struck me was his comment being bemused by single people commenting on the topic.

Can't see what people's current status has got to do with past experiences being relevant to the topic. They may be single now but it in no way explains what past experiences they have.

I don't have time to trawl hrough posters profiles to see if they are qualified to share their opinions.

I'm single. Does that make him bemused that l have an opinion on the topic? Bemused me that he is bemused...........
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Bazingal   Woman 42yrs

Lol Annie

too much bemusing going on.....

I agree, it is about communication and understanding with your partner. Some people's idea of an open relationship is "do what you want when you want" with no details being shared. And that's awesome when it works for both of them. Other's have guidelines/rules in place. Where they draw the line is up to them to discuss and decide upon, where they can both be happy with what's is allowed, not allowed and expected from each other.
If a partner deviates from this agreement or hides details previously expected to be shared, I believe the other can deem it as cheating. The way they deal with that is up to them to determine.

I expect complete transparency from my partner, which is included in any of our "play" rules at any time. Lying out right or omitting information is not acceptable to me.


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Westcoast1975

bi for sure

Simple. Hes bi or into some seriously kinky shit he doesn't want you to witness.
Or your paranoid. I dont get paranoid ever but paranoid people have been following me.

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72   Couple Man 45yrs Woman 48yrs

ITM

When I started seeing KC, we were in an open D/s relationship, we then make the decision that we would take our relationship back to the start, we closed it off, so we could work on us, then we would add things as we grow as a couple.
Can anyone be 100% sure that their other half is completely fulfilled, I don't believe so, because you can only be 100% sure about yourself. Trust me when I say, the decision we made in regards to our relationship and remaining monogamous at the moment, was something we thought about, discussed and was something we both agreed on. All rules/boundaries that are in place with our BDSM play with other people, are exactly the same for both of us, what's good for him is good for me and vise versa, there are designed for both of us and we can be adjust as we need to.

Do I trust KC to be able to express himself, to be able to have that conversation with me, to be completely open and honest with me able his wants and needs, Yes I do. Our relationship works for us, we have
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 54yrs

lovinit

Yes, I didn't mean what you have and your current situation isn't good, it's obvious your relationship is one we all hope for. I also believe you re discussing properly and being prepared to adjust as you go. So the love and respect you have for each other is amazing. Yes that's a place I'd like to find myself one day, but would approach and continue on with it, slightly differently. But do I expect my business model lol will work and do I think your won't? I have no clue.

All I know is how I want to do it, and wanted to express here there are different ways to move forward with relationships, where the love is still there, and the desire for each other, but cheating would never be an issue. I suppose the difference really is just with commitment. Commitment for me can take away the random nature of my life, and I'm a never read the instructions kind of person lol just like to wing it and see where I end up. But that's me, just putting it out there that not everyone wants the same thing. No question what you have is perfect though for the two if you πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸ‘Œ
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 54yrs

auto correct grrr

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I_touch_myself2   Woman 54yrs

lovinit

Also, the end of your comment looks to have a part missing, is there more that didn't post?
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Lovinit28andKC72   Couple Man 45yrs Woman 48yrs

Shit, Poo, Bum....

It would seem I didn't copy and paste all of my little writing sorry, here's the rest plus a bit more.
We have discussed in great detail what we both enjoy, our wants and needs, what we are both comfortable with, so we could see what was going to work for us, we are 2 very naughty people.

I think all relationships are different, I know they are hard work and I was never really very good at them, hence the reason I was single for so long. But I want this, I want him, he's an amazing person with a kind heart and a very naughty (my kind of naughty) mind. I am a free spirt, a winger as such, I don't plan anything, I really am terrible. KC is a planner, an organiser, you know everything has a place, everything in its place kinda guy, he doesn't wing anything, yes it's a struggle sometimes. As a couple we seem to work most of the time, but it's not without lots of communication, trust, honesty, love, our amazing dynamic and fucking awesome sex.
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 54yrs

lovinit

You are a lucky girl πŸ˜‰πŸ˜€
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Jamesy5s   Man 53yrs

Ip

Even in a open relationship.Truth and honesty has to be the only way! Why lie?

- Posted from rhpmobile
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johnisfun3   Man 43yrs

Not sure to call it cheating

Well my take is if you have open relationship then why worry about it. We all like to keep secrets and the buzz of a secret flirting or relationship could be exciting for some people. If you are worried too much then discuss with your partner.

In general men are happy to share their thoughts and feelings but my experience is sometimes innocent comments can be taken out of context and then I regret sharing them. Over time you learn to leave some details out. Maybe you are in open relationship but still want to have safety of monogamous one.
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zu7bcv   Man 41yrs

More than Two

OP, read "More than two" by Franklin Veaux. That should be helpful with dealing with your partner(s) and their partners in a poly (applicable in open) relationships. The website is pretty good as well. All the best OP.

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jennifer102   Woman 46yrs

Each realationship has its own boundary

The only person that can decide is you. I find that if you are asking for advice it is because you want validation for what you already know. If it feels like cheating, its cheating.
That's when you need to sit down and ask can you live with it. If not then another decision has to be made. Leave or stay.
We all make lifestyle choices and like most people that have posted I value honesty over everything. There are historical reasons. But I'm also pretty open minded. My boundaries are set. Cross them and I'm gone.
However, lying by omission, which happened to me recently ensured a year long 'play relationship' ended. Why? because of an omission. Trust was lost in an instant. It can never be regained.



But it was a personal choice, many women wouldn't have worried.
We are all different and all have different expectations and needs.

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