Cheating in an open relationship

Cheating in an open relationship

    | Mar 01, 2017
mrnmsbhavn2500   Couple Man 43yrs Woman 41yrs
Hi sexy people.

What is your take on finding out your partner is sending sexts and having discreet meetings with other people, though you may be in an open relationship where you have agreed to be honest? Is it cheating or is it just a thrill thing?

B & R
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

Mary

Thanks, I agree relationships need nurturing, absolutely no question about that. Freedom doesn't mean the home fire doesn't need to be stoked 😊 your bf wouldn't have time to see anyone else when you're there, would he? 😉

I understand that rule and IMO fine 👍 he still has time to see others if he chooses to and no over controlling rules are put on him. I also don't mean to imply it's just men who can feel caged, women are quite often the horny fuckers who need more, like you and I 😜
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jayme2   Man 54yrs

Shells..

What you say is perfectly understandable. Of course it took time to adjust to the right comfort level. I don't beleive anyone entering into a open relationship snap their fingers and it's all OK.

It takes time and honesty to reach your comfort level and not everyone will pull it off.. You and hubby got there..

😃. 👍
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lovman8   Man 65yrs

Open relationship?

It depends on the definition of open you and your partner have worked out. The extremes could be complete sexual freedom with no need to consult or inform the other partner of any interaction what so ever to the other extreme of letting your partner know about every flirt text or kiss you have with a third party . Or any where in between.
In my opinion you need to decide carefully and honestly with your partner what you each mean by "open" relationship , come to some mutual agreement on your rules and boundaries, and then it should be much easier to define what is "cheating " and whats not .
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Hornyalltime72   Woman 41yrs

Communication

Communication honesty with kindest and people will always want to stay in your life. So lesson Learnt the hard way with me is trying to observe another who maybe wanted to be honest but didn't know how and I forgave and forgave but eventually it did my head in someone not being honest and open. :( I will always love him...

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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 54yrs

Human nature

An event experienced by 2 'people will have different and perhaps onflicting versions.

2 different minds and thought processes. The key is communication. The key is asking. The key is explaining. All in a respectable and calm manner.

Throw in emotions and sexual behaviours. Wars have started with less.

Throw in an erect penis, there gonna be problems explaining the thought process behind some stuff........
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Hornyalltime72   Woman 41yrs

Human nature

hmmm really Annie blaming an erect penis? Maybe a teenager can get away with that excuse once but ???? A grown man Annie ?????

Just because people are different doesn't mean they can't show respect and communicate, especially about such intimate behaviour. Guess if nothing matters to a person, and they just do stuff to satisfy there apparent needs or addictions then communicating becomes extremely manipulative ie Omissions, fake profiles, experimental ( that's a good one) he he.... And silly me I always give people a chance to talk and explain, much to my detriment.

And when the other person realises what was done to them I'm sure there are thoughts of revenge, that's definately human nature.

But it's also human nature to forgive and move on and learn from experiences.

Ps - Annie, you and I and all others all deserve respectful communication as that's about loving ourselves enough! And it's ok to expect that, we deserve that much xooxxo

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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 54yrs

Hornyalltime

Big hug. Xxx
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Longest_dream   Woman 30yrs

Personally,

I'd probably crack and egg on their face in the night. The egg shouldn't be on you!
Ah, metaphors... something about lollyjars and trust? That's right- they deserve neither!

love and light,
L_D 💅🏼

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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

okay

Hornyalltime are you bringing personal baggage in, crossing privacy lines? Or just making a general statement? Reading that, sounds like a bit of a loaded comment. Forgive me if I'm wrong, hard for me to check your profile when I'm blocked 😀😇
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

lol

I personally love erect penii 😀 😛😜
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SuperFoxxxy  

Woman 45yrs

IMO

If you believe, you have been faulsly mislead, the other person is not being honest and the verbal agreement (I'm guessing you had one?) to what the relationship is, has broken down, then you need to discuss your issues with that person.

Maybe something has happened, for them to be acting discreet etc towards you?

Ms Foxy
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Jean_Girard  

Man 42yrs

Spurs, Erections and the Open Relationships of Singles

I think the answer lies in the responses already. What were your rules? Bearing in mind sometimes we only hear the bits we want to hear in a discussion so there's plenty of scope for misunderstanding.

It's all well and good to blame an erection or a spur of the moment, and I would agree that nothing would ruin a spur of the moment interaction with someone quicker than "I just need to check with my partner" and sending off a quick text message while you both sit there staring at the phone waiting for a green light. But I think if you have the time to text and set up rendezvous you have time to tell your partner what you are doing. If that was the agreement between you.

I'm also amused at the input of single people on how best to run an open relationship. I think by definition an open relationship has to have rules and boundaries because there are two people in the relationship. I think if you have an open slather relationship you've really just got several FWBs don't you?
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LaFemmeFontaine   Woman 40yrs

Open = Freedom

Open = Open & honest.

In their rather poor attempt at discretion, it's seems that they felt the need to hide something
The behaviour seems off. Open is open to me in both honesty and freedom.

This reads like it is neither free nor honest.





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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 54yrs

Funny






I'm also amused at the input of single people on how best to run an open relationship. I think by definition an open relationship has to have rules and boundaries because there are two people in the relationship.

Funny comment coming from a single man. Lol.
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Jean_Girard  

Man 42yrs

Open wide.

I wish Annie. Nope. I'm in one of those horrible policed, controlled and boundary riddled relationships. Which bit of my profile confused you?

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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

Jean_Girard

I'll take the open slather over rules and compromise 👍 which has a kind of 'work as a team' feel about it. You know if you tell me I can't have it, I'll want it twice as much. We are individuals and should be free to make our own choices so for me, a partner would have a slightly bigger slice of the pie 😛 and fb's a smaller slice each. So it almost is like a heap of fb's, just your partner gets more action and to do the grocery shopping with you 😀

If I had to ask someone if I could text or have sex with someone, why? It's like you're asking a parent for permission to do something. So you meet someone randomly in public, the chemistry is there 💏 what then, do you say "hang on, I just have to call and ask my wife's permission, she may want to meet you, you may have to get disease tested. No anal..... We have rules. Is that okay?" 😀

For me personally, any rules aside from safe sex, you need to protect each other of course and normal safety stuff, but anything else, okay maybe a quick call to say I'm not going to be home for dinner 😇 otherwise, makes me cringe. It's like you get married, you become a clone? You're not marrying your bloody mother, you shouldn't need permission or rules/restriction placed on you, which in turn makes you want it more. Quick disclaimer, 'you' used in a general sense, not meaning you lol

Hence why men (predominantly, women also) go forth and find their fun without the knowledge of their partners. And yes, I know that for a fact 😉 but don't assume that everyone needs or wants that kind of relationship. Absolutely not for me, I'd kick him to the kerb if he tried to place any restriction on my sex life. Total freedom can absolutely happen if we're careful to find a compatible partner and that is the mistake people make IMO

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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

so

I also wanted to say the title of this topic made me laugh, because of the irony 😉 due respect, but isn't the whole point of an open relationship, aside from basic human physical pleasure and the freedom to find that, to do away with the cheating issue? Open relationship and cheating don't belong in the same sentence I don't think 😃
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

respect

Before I get the respect thing thrown at me, actually hmm 😯 I haven't had much respect shown to me this week, I might start agreeing with you soon 😉 but I think it's respecting a person more to allow them to be their own person and make their own choices 😃
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 54yrs

Sorry

Too much editing. That was Jean_Girard's quote.
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Lovinit28andKC72   Couple Man 45yrs Woman 48yrs

Relationships

With any relationship, open or closed, it's about being honest, being mindful, respec, trust and communication. My relationship is closed to sexual encounters at the moment, but that's doesn't mean it always will be. When and if we decided to open it up, it will work for both of us, there will be plenty of discussions and there will be rules, just like there was when we decided to open it up to BDSM play, (which is all working well for us both).

Things change, needs, wants, experiences, they all change, when you've entered into a relationship with another person, you can't be as selfish as you were when you were a single person. 💋

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