Canning and Flogging

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  is aligning your pleasure with his inability to see how it could be pleasurable.....I feel...
  
  Or he likens it to domestic violence....Either way he needs a lot of reassurance I feel....
  
  As for would it change how he sees you/your relationship....fuck knows, ask him :)
  
  Good luck
  
  - Posted from rhpmobile

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  summerwolves

  8 years ago

  He may be struggling to disassociate his feelings for you and wanting to protect/look after you from what he is doing, knowing that it may hurt you.
  
  If you want him to flog/cane you it may be best to get him to start slow and then work up to more harder strokes (maybe over a few sessions). Keep giving him feedback and be prepared to stop the session if it gets too much for you.
  
  If he knows that you will stop the session if your boundaries are reached it may give him more confidence that you can handle what he gives.
  
  But importantly, make sure he knows that you want to be involved and work with him on how you can achieve this together.

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  Mischeviouslad

  8 years ago

  Funny... when a guy posts on behalf of a woman.... lol

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Just litter in Singapore :)

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Gradually work up to extreme... If he's soooo scared. Things don't have to be black and white. Btw: it's caning ... Canning is when the breweries ready to package its product. 😉
  
  - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Quoting 'FickleFanny'
  
  "Gradually work up to extreme... If he's soooo scared. Things don't have to be black and white. Btw: it's caning ... Canning is when the breweries ready to package its product. 😉"
  
  Don't you mean, "Things don't have to be black and BLUE."? 😝
  
  
  
  @OP, mayhap he is scared he'll be canned if he doesn't do the job right 😉
  
  - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Talk. Talk through the scenario. Engage the imagination. Read up!
  Set up specific games.
  Talk boundaries. Test pain levels. Incorporate teasing the senses- consider; ice, hot oil, wax, tickle.
  Dont involve gags so the communication remains fluid.
  
  Good luck.
  
  - Posted from rhpmobile

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  ReyandJean

  8 years ago

  There are skill share sessions where he can learn and develop confidence. They are usually sessions with limited nakedness. Just do a search on 'BDSM skillshare' for example.
  Go to a BDSM party. You could get whipped and he could just watch and learn. Or you could both just watch.
  
  Getting that bottom pink and warm is half the fun. Getting it red and hot is the other half. Generating endorphin release doesn't happen in 3 slaps.

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