Any poly people around?

November 22 2015

Any poly people or anyone interested in poly? Practicing poly? What form of poly?

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  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Wow, three months to get one reply. When I decided to go poly I knew it would be entering a minority group, but this is ridiculous.
    So I've been poly for the best part of a year now. I've had one short relationship with a girl who thought she could be poly but decided to turn and run back to the mainstream, one size fits no one model. In my mind, I am not keen on the model in which a central couple has secondary relationships around it. I prefer the idea of all relationships being, basically, equal. I am also of the view that circumstances can influence the way relationships work and they can make them unequal no matter how hard you work at keeping them equal. Sometimes the best you can do is keep them fair.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Hi Sprit....
    I was seeing a woman last year who was poly, she had 5 regular guys meeting her needs, plus some casual men and women. Man was she fun fun fun..... But she has since found love and surpassing those poly hormones...... I'm sure when the honeymoon is over her mind will draw her back to that lifestyle....... hopefully he goes along for the ride... pun intended lol
    But, me thinks there is nothing wrong with having a poly lifestyle..... just have fun and be honest and open with each partner...

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    yes its all a bit scarce around here lol.. thanks for your thoughts..

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Wow, this is a quiet topic.
    I never thought I would be a person that could share my husband but lately I have been giving more and more thought to the possibility or finding the right person for hubby and I - so that I could stretch my bi muscles and have the best of both worlds (by that I mean I am the kind of bi that would happily have a relationship with a woman if I was not married to hubby or in a relationship with a male. It is not just about havin' a bit of "lesbian sex" for me!). I probably described that very poorly.
    I have been doing some wide and serious reading as well as following blogs/accounts of others in poly relationships to test how I feel about different aspects.

    And while my thoughts are in their early days and we we not actively seeking more than a FWB at this stage... if the right person came into our lives I would certainly give it A LOT more thought!!

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Hey guys, I would like to be a poly man. Have not come across the right people I guess. Ideal poly relationship for me would be two woman as I would like to have a family one day. Otherwise I am definitely open to other poly arrangements. Happy to chat to and also make friends.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Hi. My wife and I opened up. About a year ago now. I gave up on this site looking for friends and lovers as it seems everyone here is looking for unicorns.

    I jump on here to brows the forums here and there.

    Feel free to message me if you want to chat. Always looking for new friends

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    lovinglust, that is a big issue I have seen, is people being able to define whether they are a couple looking for a unicorn or a couple looking for a partner.. and I have seen it from both sides, poly and not poly..

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    It's so hard not to write the obvious pun...
    Hey Op, I'm married poly in Perth. 3 years or so.
    My husband and I run on the primary way of thinking.
    I know about 5 other mixed couples or so over here. I was recently invited to a meet and greet that happens in Perth. We may attend at some point.
    My husband had a beautiful stable partner and we all get along beautifully.
    I would say I have a bit more turnover. I've got no problem with ships in the night.
    I've had three more serious loves over time but none of them have been poly themselves. They've all been beautiful, loving men who have or will move onto other things.
    As it goes, so far I'm very content and excited for the future and what it may hold.
    There are ways to find other polys, I haven't really tried. I'm just open to others and sometimes they open up to me.
    I can't say any of my partnered girlfriends are allowed out on the town with me though, it might be catching!! 😂
    🙋 L_D xx

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • totallygenuine

    totallygenuine

    8 years ago

    Hi guys,



    Well I've been involved with poly couples for about 6 years now as i joined this scene back in 2009. It was fun being single at the time. All my couples are/were aware I was involved in poly relationships with the wives/gf's of all other couples. Being recently attached now (nearly a year ) my partner is fully aware and respects that I'm/they're still involved to date. So to answer your question YES there are poly couples out there.

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    8 years ago

    This is something that is extremely new to me, we are told, taught, brainwashed from a very young age that when you love someone you should be monogamous, it's a conforming with what society thinks is right.

    Just recently I've started seeing a man, my Dominant, I am his primary partner, his submissive, his baby girl, but we also have another woman (who I adore) and her husband in our family. We are looking at bringing in a young male submissive CD for us to play with, who is a gorgeous person, who we all like. I don't wish to share this man with everyone, but I'm happy to share him with people that I adore and who are part of our little family. This is just my take on my poly, I don't know if it will work, but what I do know is monogamous hasn't worked for us in the past, so why not try something that might just work. 💋

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I began exploring poly after reading a quote in a book by scott hildreth



    “To think for one minute the human mind or the human heart has the ability to love multiple family members , and not have the capacity to feel love for multiple people , in my opinion, is to think foolishly,” he said. “We love family, friends, animals, thoughts, phrases, places, theories…” he hesitated and shook his head. “We love none of them any more or less than the other. Love, in my heart, is love. We tell ourselves it’s different when we think we’ve met the one . Nonetheless, it’s simply love, and we reserve hope by telling ourselves the love is special or more abundant than our previous or current loves. Me? I say bullshit,” he sighed.
    to say it sat well with me is an understatement. It sat beautifully with me in so many ways it was mind blowing. We are what we are, it is what we make it, with each individual and experience we have along the way.

  • SexPositivePerth

    SexPositivePerth

    8 years ago

    Solo poly right here..
    So hard to find like minded girls.
    Perth wa

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Wow spirit Phoenix that last comment sat very well with me. I have only in the last 2 years realized what it is to be me. Like most your told how to be a man or woman and that's the only way but when I realized my other urges it took a while to except . now that I do I know this is who I am and I love being this way. Poly all the way!!

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Two_Warm_Hands

    Two_Warm_Hands

    7 years ago

    Last week I had a good browse through a poly dating website, and not even the members seemed to know what the difference was. Couldn't find a poly on there :-D

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Us 3 are in a long term poly relationship
    Here m m f

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Dear Spirit of what should be the risen Phoenix.


    I am very interested in the Poly form of life... That
    ability to be able to function body and soul in an environment of mutual
    support and commitment- where everyone’s needs are met and respected. I also
    have a strong dominate side... I’m intrigued about the make-up of your
    relationship and how you work in in the B&D side?

    I’d love to chat more with you on the topic.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I call them as just well experienced,

  • ImpressMeTemptMe

    ImpressMeTemptMe

    7 years ago

    I tend to be in a Poly V - Hubby is happy to be with just myself as I am more than enough woman for him he says. LOL!
    I have had a few relationships over time. Hubby and my partners have got along really well so it has made family dinners and other things more than lovely for me. I am a lucky girl for sure! My other partners have moved on and are now in monogamous relationships. Always on the lookout for someone that is poly or can handle me being poly.

    ~MissT

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Have had a couple of attempts at poly, the one closes to working out was me as a single person coming into an established relationship. It didn't work out but the three of us are very good friends still and catch up regularly.
    Open to trying again as I don't see myself 'monogamously wired' but understand that it takes a lot of communication and sometimes a lot of bravery.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I'm yet to indulge in the delights of a poly relationship but I am very interested.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I am married and have a gorgeous BF. It is by far the hardest thing I've done to date since opening up our relationship, yet the most rewarding 😘 Ensuring both of my relationships get the nurturing and developing they need as we transition and evolve is my paramount concern. Challenges arise in both relationships but communication is the key!

    Poly is different to swinging, currently I'm in two relationships that aren't just focused primarily on sex. There are three people developing a 'relationship' and are invested it making it work. It involves a greater level of intimacy, trust, acceptance and understanding x 3 lol.

    Mary xx

  • usnow

    usnow

    7 years ago

    This is something we would love to try .
    Can imagine finding the right person with the same desires would be extremely difficult .
    Usnow .

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I am married to a great guy and we have a girlfriend.... we have been seeing her for nearly 3 years and just recently on a more frequent basis .... hubby has had a few single dates with her and its great to hear of his indulgences when he returns home. She is a poly solo so we all have our own lives too.

  • ck6151

    ck6151

    7 years ago

    I am reasonably new to the poly experience. Have a primary partner, and a secondary partner. I enjoy the freedom and closeness that these relationships can give. But like an open relationship, or swinging or what have you the key (to me anyway) is transperancy, communication and honesty.







    I am out of a 16 year marriage that simply didn't work, and now I feel the closest to having mine and my partners need fulfilled. Generally I am happy, but jealousy issues can always hamper a good time. Again transperancy and communication is key.







    I enjoy it, and probably will not be monogamous again.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Its bullshit if you find someone that you love and are quite content with that one person. I have met poly couples and they are very happy in their relationships. Equally Im very happy with my guy. Ive been very lucky in that Ive met him. We may play with other people but our relationship will remain as it is. And that is how we both feel. I dont think its for anyone to dictate how us as humans live our lives. If you are happy with your relationship then thats what matters.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    One of the things i want to try! My partner is a bit Suprised by it.. i don't even know where to start to find a lovely bisexual lady to join our relationship.



    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • rootratandlady

    rootratandlady

    7 years ago

    This is something that we are very curious about. We would love to explore poly, but so far meeting the right people has been rather elusive :(

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • rootratandlady

    rootratandlady

    7 years ago

    My husband and I are both open to poly. He has a girlfriend who he cares about a lot. I would love to find similar in a guy and he is more than ok with that but I guess I'm just looking in the wrong places. The guys I meet are more one hit wonders. But I keep looking.
    We have met some fun people on the way. We do have us as the primary relationship with a family but we are also very considerate of the needs of his girlfriend. She isn't completely an equal but certainly up there if that makes sense.
    I would love something more than just sex but it doesn't seem to be out there

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • rootratandlady

    rootratandlady

    7 years ago

    Damn phone posted so many times lol

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • KinkyKandR

    KinkyKandR

    7 years ago

    So hard to find single women who are interested! Hello Brisbane northsiders.. Married couple seeking a lady x

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'QueenKandKingR'
    So hard to find single women who are interested! Hello Brisbane northsiders.. Married couple seeking a lady x

    - Posted from rhpmobile
    well the way your profile is worded, your looking for a unicorn not a poly.. poly is having an in-depth relationship with the person, whether its her and her, her and him, and extremely rarely if at all the three of you.
    If you really are after poly, then you need to change how your presenting, and dont have high expectations of all three falling in love with each other.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Monogamy hasn't worked well in the past...time for a different approach.

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Two_Warm_Hands

    Two_Warm_Hands

    7 years ago

    There are so many other options to non-traditional forms of human bonding and relationships these days that the world is your oyster. From ethical non monogamy to open or closed polyamorous relationships, it really is a case of choose your own adventure. The hard part is finding someone who's ideals match your own, or working it through with someone whom you would like to share ongoing involvement with. Bravery plays a big part, being willing to put your neck on the line each and every time, and as daunting as that may seem, the rewards of complete and utter honesty and sticking to your own truths can be so worthwhile and personally validating. Your profile sounds amazing, smart, sexy, articulate, all encompassing, enough to reel in an enthusiastic suitor, I'm sure. Me included ;)

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Hi Spirit_Phoenix
    Have had that relationship in the past i had a previous gf while with my partner mainly for me. But sometimes the both of us would join in. Feel free to ask any questions you may have.

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I have have a wife I love, but don't make love to,a and a couple of girl friends I do get jiggy with so does that me polyamouris?

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'Hank_E_Panky'
    I have have a wife I love, but don't make love to,a and a couple of girl friends I do get jiggy with so does that me polyamouris?
    polyamorous means relationship.. so it you have an invested relationship with the girlfriends, then yes, if you dont and they are just people you have sex with, then no your swinging.
    thanks beczbi... Ive been in a poly relationship for over a year now..so I am nicely squared away at the moment hehe..xx

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    It's going to be the only way anyone can afford a house in 10 years time, so the young 'uns better find a way to pool 3 or more incomes quick-smart! This looks like the perfect way

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I was recently introduced to the whole Poly lifestyle by a girl who has become very important to me, and I her. While she is more of a Solo Polyamorist I can easily see her as my Primary... time will tell I'm sure.
    I am currently struggling a little, with my anxiety not helping, but I'm sure things will settle once I find some extra partners of my own which I'm hoping will also take some pressure off her as she is currently my only "provider" of emotional support and sexual release.
    Hopefully this site may help me in my search... as the more vanilla ones certainly don't cater to this lifestyle.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    My wife and I have engaged in poly after some soft swinging. We see each other as the primary and accept that we can love others. We have some rules but only as far as to protect each other and our relationship.
    These evolved due to the dark side of poly, in that just because you are ready, doesn't mean your potential partner is ready to be a part of poly. After a few negative outcomes we are a lot more cautious and informed.


    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    As to the type, we are Primary and have had 'V' style relationaliships. On occasion we have had fun with my secondary whobdecided to join us in bed. Not the norm.
    Sadly my partner moved to the states and my wife's partner decided he wanted to be monogamous with her and her with him. He wasn't ready or understanding of us or himself. Ended ugly.


    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Hello everyone,

    It is very interesting reading the posts regarding this topic.

    We have been long term occasional swingers.....attending parties here and there.

    We now feel that morphing into this style of friendship/relationship might now suit our wants.

    We feel that we would like to engage in a friendship initially with a female. Someone that can become a friend to both of us and both of us a friend to her. A mixed style of friendship that might mean heading out for a coffee as mff or ff or mf. Or this combination sexually. It to us is about building trust and rapport.

    Over the longer term we would be quite open to a special lady to move into our beautiful home and share a great lifestyle.

    Predominantly we envisage the sexual side of the friendship to be special f and m but we also would love to mix it up and keep open all possible sexual combinations.

    Please say hello if you feel you can relate to what we are hoping to develop.



    So.....the question is.......where do we advertise to find that special lady?.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'Midcoastcouple1'
    Hello everyone,


    It is very interesting reading the posts regarding this topic.


    We have been long term occasional swingers.....attending parties here and there.


    We now feel that morphing into this style of friendship/relationship might now suit our wants.


    We feel that we would like to engage in a friendship initially with a female. Someone that can become a friend to both of us and both of us a friend to her. A mixed style of friendship that might mean heading out for a coffee as mff or ff or mf. Or this combination sexually. It to us is about building trust and rapport.


    Over the longer term we would be quite open to a special lady to move into our beautiful home and share a great lifestyle.


    Predominantly we envisage the sexual side of the friendship to be special f and m but we also would love to mix it up and keep open all possible sexual combinations.


    Please say hello if you feel you can relate to what we are hoping to develop.





    So.....the question is.......where do we advertise to find that special lady?.



    what you are looking for is going to be rarer than you think, because your limiting your options by expecting someone to have a relationship with you both. You need to think about whether you can both be open to the possibility of only one person connecting with one of you and how that might work or not work for you. It is a rare thing to be blessed with a person who can love both of you equally.
    good luck!

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Hello Spirit,

    Yes ......we agree that it will be a long process that possibly will not eventuate. But it only takes us to be in the right place at the right time and putting our hopes out to the universe. So if all the stars align we just might get the privilege of meeting that one person.

    I guess down the track we will learn if we are too narrow in our search but we have to list our perfect scenario in the hope we can find it.

    Mrs would be happy for me to play outside of our marriage but at this stage Mr doesn't feel he wants to do do...but if that was a factor we would talk about it as a possibility.

    So many twists and turns to come.

    We look forward to chatting with you over time 😊😀😊

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Deep down I've been Poly since my early 20s. However I had never heard the term back then.

    I then met my husband and was in a faithful monogamous marriage.

    Since opening up our marriage, I'm back to my true Poly nature, which personally feels more natural to me.

    What can I say, I got a lot of love to give ❤️

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Yep, I'm solo poly. Have been for many years.
    In fact, it's become so ingrained in my nature by now that I can't even imagine operating any other way. Not being able to love multiple people feels just as unnatural and limiting to me as the idea of not being allowed to have more than one close friend.

    That said, the "solo" bit makes the logistics of it much easier than for other ways of doing poly though, that's for sure!

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    We both have been talking about this seriously for the last 2-3 years and feel it is the next step in our relationship.

    We have been looking for a guy in Sydney to join us,we have had a few experiences with one being serious and that has gave us a taste for more.

    But there are more downs than ups but were still hopeful.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Hi guys, Just thought I would share my experiences on this ,
    It's something amazing if you can find the right fit, To share and watch your partner grow sexually is a great thing , the very most important thing is honesty , to share thoughts sessions fantasys , play , keep nothing hidden then jealousy won't enter either , things only go wrong when all are not open, Good luck , stay safe and enjoy 💋


    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    My wife and I started our relationship as poly from the very beginning.

    We are both very communicative, and honest with each other.

    The reality for anything like this is that you need to let your partner know they are loved, listened to, and cared for.

    If you both feel confident in your own connection, it makes it easier.

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Poly couple here guys! We literally are the epitome of compersion. Here I am online trying to find new friends for my amazing husband Chris while he sleeps. It's so hard for the guys, I have to reject so many people who don't get polyamory and just think I'll put out, meanwhile Chris goes on dates with girls who end up preferring me. I just want to help this beautiful person find his special person/people 🙁

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Tina_Femme

    Tina_Femme

    6 years ago

    I've always been interested in being with a poly couple, either being part of an existing couple or finding a woman and starting our own... it's a matter of finding the right people but super interested in the dynamic

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    After some time experimenting with swinging, we have discovered that poly would most likely be a natural progression, particularly for me. I like to develop a bond that is more than just casual sex, so this would be ideal :)
    While I have read some various blogs and articles about it all, it is disappointing that there isn't as much discussion on these forums :( It does seem something that can be a little tricky to navigate, especially as a "novice" so would be great to see how others manage it all!

  • curiousm50

    curiousm50

    6 years ago

    Hello,

    I can recommend

    Opening Up, Tristan Taormino.
    https://play.google.com/store/books/details?id=XZyo3x1wscMC



    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Polyamorous here.

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    We started out swinging and decided there wasn't enough connection for us so we investigated the poly lifestyle for about a year.
    We had difficulty meeting the right people as it's a small community. My husband was hoping for a 3way connection with is notoriously difficult and although we tried with several people it proved too difficult for them to be the 3rd in a primary relationship.
    Since then we've focused on more of a FWB situation with people as we feel it's the most realistic situation for us.
    We both have made great M and F friends this way who enjoy other special people in their lives too.

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Red_Liquorice, I have been searching myself for someone just for me that is not wholely and solely after sex and it seems nigh on impossible!!
    I have always avoided the FWB type arrangements as in my experience, they always seem to be just about the sex, you become a booty call effectively, which isn't what I want. Maybe I have just found the wrong "friends" lol

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    MrsE. I think those couples are out there. I believe we are one of them. We certainly don't seem to fit in with the general swinging community.
    We really enjoy the social interaction with the female friends we have had. In fact that's what I enjoy most.
    The funny thing is when we've asked our female FWB over for dinner, movie, cuddles she's always the one who instigates sex! Not that we complain. Lol

    Finding that 3way attraction is just one battle, having a family, other friends, jobs, etc, means that catching up is not as regular as they would like, but if we are needed for emotional/mental needs we make that person a priority. We just can't offer them a "normal" or dedicated relationship, so we don't pretend that we can.

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Hand up here being poly. Although I consider myself ethically non-monogamous. I’m dating a married poly man, have had a FWB for a few years, just started dating a new man. I’m open and upfront to my partners about this lifestyle. Communication, communication, communication is the key.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Very open to the swing scene, but would love to chat to a poly couple and see what its like being in a committed emotional involved relationship with more than one.

  • CuriousCoupl2010

    CuriousCoupl2010

    5 years ago

    Hey guys,
    Giving poly some serious thoughts after hubby and i met an amazing woman. None of us have done this before- I'd say it's gonna be slow going at first and we would operate as primary as we have kids etc...
    Any advice for newbies appreciated!
    Also wondering if there are any poly ppl in the NT??

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Another poly guy here - though not in any relationships at the moment

  • witty_lovers

    witty_lovers

    5 years ago

    Yes!

    We even host a few get-togethers in Melbourne and have quite the connected community.

    What we find is that a lot of people were swingers for a while, but then needed something more substantial, so they come to meet play partners who can also be good friends.

    So now, our household barbecues are populated by people in poly and open relationships, and are the best friends we've ever known.

    AND sometimes we play with them.

    Our life is awesome.

  • Zsuza69

    Zsuza69

    4 years ago

    Hi we are looking for a polyamourus set up we did have it but people grow and change.
    We are both bisexual so what we want could be fun .
    Come find us for a chat xxx Mrs Z

  • twister

    twister

    4 years ago

    I’m a WA guy, interested in the Poly lifestyle... I’ve never been one for ONS or different partners often. I love the intensity that comes from exploring and knowing your partners... i think the poly lifestyle is suited to those of strong spiritual awareness. I was hoping to explore that lifestyle with a couple I found here, but alas it wasn’t to be... I love the idea of MMF loving with a long term couple....

    It would be amazing to explore a new dimension of love & life!!..have a wonderful weekend...

  • mckinkski

    mckinkski

    4 years ago

    ..but personally relevant. My ex said she was poly. Turned out to be narcissistic personality disorder. Poly was just the way she maintained sufficient numbers to supply her narcissism. Jesus. Never again. Monogamy is a bit like democracy. It's shit but everything else is way worse..lol. Sorry. Paraphrasing Churchill there I think. lol

  • mckinkski

    mckinkski

    4 years ago

    No offence to anyone involved in the "poly" lifestyle either. Apologies in advance. I'm a bit apergers socially sometimes! lol
    Just my personal experience of it. It appears fundamentally flawed in terms of the existing social structure and there seems to be a lot of inequity and jealousy issues alongside people with mental health issues involved in it from my limited exposure to it. Ex was anti-swingers as part of the poly ethos too so go figure? She's still on here looking for sex partners so I could never reconcile the poly manifesto with the actual practise.
    lol
    If it works for anyone though, I take my hat off to them. Seems like the search for dark matter from what I've experienced but that's just me. Peace.